When do we stop fighting for it?

“My first love was everything all at once.

The kind you never fall back from.

Never try to.

Never want to.

My love’s so big, so strong. It never dies, never fades, never losses it’s electricity.

The kind of love you fight for.”

I heard this quote months ago while watching a movie. While it was one person speaking to another in a romantic way, these words immediately resonated with me but in regards to a family member. It brought a tear to my eye.

What if giving it our all is not enough? Does there come a time when we throw in the towel and decide to stop fighting for attention? We can’t force someone want to be with us, right? What would be the fun in that?

That’s when we come to terms that ‘obligatory’ visits with that person would be not be anything that feels good. There are plenty of obligatory things in life that must be done due to certain circumstances. Why would we want to obligate someone to be with us when they have shown us very clearly with their actions that “It just is not meant to be?”

I am reminded often of the thought that we cannot control others’ actions but we are in charge of how we react to the situation.

Easier said than done, right?

So then what? We can pretend everything is okay. But where does that get us? Deep down inside our body is still reacting the same way.

Simple kindness to one’s self and all that lives, is the most powerful transformational force of all. How do we do it?

Our power lies in the meaning we give each act or interaction in our life. It’s the meaning associated with the event or memory that is holding us hostage.

Every thought or emotion we experience causes a reaction in our brain.

EFT shows us how we can shift our brain’s response to a memory or situation.

If you are #estranged from a family member without a choice in the matter, EFT may be helpful for eliminating the hurtful emotions that so often are buried in these cases.

As for me:

• My love is still big.
• My love is still strong.
• My love never died.
• My love never faded.
• My love never lost its’ electricity.

But I have stopped fighting for it. For me, that was the right choice.

Most importantly, I have gotten over the hurt. It was time and energy well spent.

Was there something or someone that you were fighting for that you feel better about now? Please share below.