Did you ever feel left out of the latest talk?
It seemed like EVERYONE around you had the inside scoop? Maybe you even witnessed people laughing or grumbling about the topic but at least they knew what was going on?
Well, that was the way I felt a few months ago when the movie ‘Frozen’ was all the rage. People were talking about it on the radio, online, heck even at my yoga class they were all talking about the popular song ‘Let it Go’!
So, I finally had to acquiesce and rent the movie just to see what this talk was all about since it had gone on for months.
Immediately I found a correlation between this song and ‘resentment’ we may have towards someone. Whether we are #estranged from family because it was our choice or their choice to have no involvement, many times there is some sort of resentment involved because things have gotten this far.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
-Nelson Mandela
So I dissected some of the lyrics from the song:
Conceal. Don’t feel.
Do we sometimes try to conceal our self from the truth?
If we can be truthful and allow ourselves to face our true feelings head on, we could see that it’s possible that we are holding onto anger as a type of survival skill because we may not feel like we have any power over the outcome.
This anger turns into resentment. As Elsa sang, it’s best for us to ‘Let it Go’.
Fears that once controlled me
Can’t get to me at all
What would it be like to feel our power? Anger and resentment are in reality leaving us powerless. The other person is not feeling anything. These feelings and fears are emotions of choice.
We are the ones hurt the most in this scenario.
I know I left a life behind but I’m too relieved to grieve
The past is so behind me
Buried in the snow
Resentment involves replaying a feeling over and over again in our minds. Quite possibly ruminating over the situation or event that caused the family separation. Over time this becomes all encompassing within our body even though we don’t talk about it.
We are not talking about reconciliation here (every person’s situation is different- some may find it more beneficial not to). What we are talking about is taking care of our inner health.
Where in your life might you see that you are drinking the poison in hopes of helping protect yourself? Are you ready to Un-bury the past in the snow and stop ruminating over what happened? Let it Go…
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Lots to ponder here. I sometimes feel that we are on a continuous journey of letting go. We think at times that we have mastered it, then something triggers us and the emotions return. It is in these times that we can become aware of our poison for that particular emotion. It becomes clearer in those moments how we are inflicting pain on ourselves. Then we are able to work our way past that poison. As humans I am sure we have various poisons for various emotional tangles. With awareness though we can release them one by one. Thank you for the reminder to do so.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Kama. I have finally had to realize that no matter how hard we try, we are not a ‘master’ at anything. We are all a work in progress. But that’s what keeps it interesting, right? We keep on trying.
Such a good thing to remember that harboring resentment is a result of replaying the events over and over again. We make the choice to do that. Yes. So we can make the choice not to harbor that negative feeling.
Thank you for that reminder. And I haven’t seen frozen yet and do feel left out. Guess I have to take action.
Good reminders and I love how you take a song that’s speaking to so many people and break it down. I also love that singing this song out loud (and dare I say dancing around with it) is a great way to ex-form those emotions and get them out of your body so healing can occur!
Ruth – I meant this reply for you and the other for the main group – oops! I haven’t seen Frozen either but my girls own it – want to have a girls night sometime soon???
Isn’t it funny how something as a animated movie can leave us feeling left out? 😉 Thanks for your comments. I appreciate it.
Wow! My grandkids love the movie Frozen, and the song, so I’ve heard it many times. However, I guess I’ve never really paid attention to the lyrics, which you have so profoundly discussed in this blog. What a powerful message for all of us, no matter what age; to just ‘let go’ of the anger, fear, resentment we so often hold on to for so many reasons. EFT is an amazing tool to help us ‘let go’, and as I found out first hand, working with you, Elda, makes it even more effective. Love your blogs:-)With much gratitude and thanks.
Thanks for coming to visit here on the blogs Joyce!!! So glad you enjoy them.
I’ll second Joyce on this, wow, I’ve never paid attention to the lyrics either, let alone give them as much thought as you have. But I needed this post. There are a couple of relationships in my life where I’m feeling reluctant to let go because… I guess I just like to feel right and I have the right to be enraged, but really what is it doing to me? I love the quote by Nelson Mandela, it makes me think.
I am so glad this post put a thought to ‘what it is doing to me?’. Thanks for sharing Tatiana. Take care of yourself.
I love that Mandela quote. And I really like how you listened deeply to song lyrics and used them to help you explore an interesting topic. May we all let go of what doesn’t serve us with ease and grace.
Yes, this is one of my favorite quotes. ( I love quotes) I heard it a long time ago on the Oprah show and it has stayed with me all of these years.
Deborah, thanks for reminding us to instill ‘ease and grace’ when we let go. The BEST way, right? Ease and Grace.