A mother’s love is something every child yearns for no matter what the age. Some might even play the game in their head, “She loves me; she loves me not.” Or in some cases, we may have already made up our minds from the actions taken place.
Mother’s Day – She loves me, She loves me not…
The world sometimes forgets that not all people have something to rejoice about during the Mother’s Day holiday. The reminders are everywhere so that we don’t forget the day is approaching.
I stumbled upon this article titled “I wasn’t the daughter she wanted and she wasn’t the mother I needed.”
It was another confirmation that we may FEEL a certain way about someone in our life because of them not treating us in the manner that we wished they would. Unfortunately, we don’t feel loved because we believe we would never treat someone in the manner in which we were treated.
In the end, her truth was not her mother’s truth. Quite interesting indeed.
Eliminating Negativity
Is negativity in your life? Maybe it’s someone you have to deal with on a daily basis, someone who isn’t even a family member.
How can we handle negativity? Many people think like I used to, that the only option is to cut them out of our life or any type of avoidance.
Here are some tips to get through it:
- Compassion – that is the biggest theme in all that I express. Look for ways to show compassion for yourself and for the other person
- Figure out ‘why’ they are pushing your buttons – many times we will find that what is irritating us so much about them is something we are denying in ourselves and more importantly, we may find that they don’t even realize they are pushing our buttons!
- Breathe – when we are in a more calm state, we see things differently. A different perspective is critical.
- Choose LOVE – again, both for you and for the other person. We can send them love energy even if they are not in our presence.
“Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
~Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama
Where are your thoughts when it comes to how to deal with someone in your life that you feel is negative or maybe you feel doesn’t show you they love you? Please share in the comments below.
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I think you’ve offered some great tips for this Elda, and of course I’m a big advocate for compassion as well. For me sometimes it’s even more helpful to step back just a bit, and consider holding the whole situation in a container of compassion. Just imagining it that way can put a little distance between the situation/person/whatever is challenging – enough space to breathe and center and remember the only person you’re in charge of is yourself.
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Great reminder…’step back’. Yes, observing the situation from afar can be very helpful. Thank you Deborah. And as I mention over and over in each of my blog posts and you did also in your comment, we can not change other people, only ourself. Thank you.
It’s all about perspective! I think its funny how one person can have one way of seeing an event, and another person can see it totally differently. I try and remember that when dealing with difficult people. I am lucky enough to get along well with both my daughter and my mother, but it isn’t always like that. Thanks for a great reminder.
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That is what it is all about…perspective. We never know what story or life experience they went through or are going through. Thank you for your comment, Amy.
First of all, congratulations Elda! No small thing to keep your posts under 400 words. What a timely topic with Mother’s Day right around the corner. I like what you said about compassion and love. When I am experiencing difficulty in a relationship, I try to practice both of these things. Acceptance is also key for me. Accepting that the only person I can change is myself. Thanks for this thought provoking post Elda!
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Thanks for noticing Nancy. I do enjoy writing the more lengthy posts so having this whole month with my focus on my posts being less than 400 words was just as you mentioned, ‘no small thing’!
Compassion and Love….is what it is all about. 🙂