Pointing Fingers

 

Many times upon meeting someone who finds out what I do and how I am of service to my clients, the first response is always pointing fingers elsewhere.

 “Oh, you should talk to my sister!” Or, “My adult son needs to talk to you!”

 

 

Three Pointing Back

Pointing fingers. When does it end? As children we do it because we don’t want to accept blame for something. As adults we do it because we don’t see how our reactions are our responsibility. It’s always about the other person because our confidence has been shaken.

Remember the saying of ‘when we point our finger at someone we have three more pointing back at us’? This would work in this scenario also.

So, if someone is saying or doing something that is throwing you in a tailspin, what can you do?

 

Oxygen Mask

Take care of yourself first. Just like the example of when you are in an airplane and they tell you to put the oxygen mask on for yourself first. That is what you do in this situation.

The first step is to allow your self to FEEL. Does it make you angry? Maybe it makes you sad? How are their actions affecting you? You have to feel your emotions in order to be completely free of them.

 

THAT IS WHAT MATTERS.

 

We can not control others and how they act, however we can definitely put our own oxygen mask on to prevent us from reacting in a way that is unhealthy for us.

 

Want to learn how you can be calm and have more confidence when this person acts in this way?

 

Contact me for more information.

It’s true. #freedomiseverything