When you’re in despair, whom do you call? I read about this 30 yr. old guy who was in the stall of a restroom during a recent tragic event. Knowing he was not to survive this tragedy, he texted his mother saying, “Mommy, I love you!”
Reminder of another tragedy
Reading about this reminded me of when the 9/11 attacks took place and we heard voicemails that people had left for their own loved ones.
I remember listening to those back then and feeling hurt with the realization that I wasn’t someone anyone would call in this time of despair. It also occurred to me that if I was in that situation, I didn’t have anyone to call to say my goodbyes.
Friends do matter
Don’t get me wrong. I have certain friends who care about me as I do them. It’s just that I might come across their mind once a month or so. It’s not the same as being that close person that really matters in your life.
They have plenty of those people already. As I hear some people say repeatedly, “I have enough close relationships in my life. I am NOT looking for any more.”
People with wonderful, loving families just don’t get it. They assume that everyone has someone to turn to or that will turn to you. One friend explained it to me in one phrase, “having your one to turn to about anything and everything”.
Turks and Caicos Islands
Several years ago I went on a trip to a most beautiful island adventure by myself meeting up with a group of people I had only ‘met’ on the Internet.
After I returned, a friend of mine was shocked to find out that I had not shared with anyone that I was going on this trip. She scolded me asking me, “What if your plane had crashed? No one would have known you were on it.” She was also a bit concerned about me meeting up with people I had never met in person before but that’s a story for another day. 🙂
Her concern seemed funny to me. Who would have I told?
Freedom is EVERYTHING!
I still don’t have someone who would think to text me like the 30 year old man did to his mother or someone I would reach out to in a serious situation, however it doesn’t make me feel sad for me anymore.
My favorite line these days is, “Freedom is Everything!” I truly believe that once we are able to obtain emotional freedom from our situation, our life changes. We cannot control the actions of others or certain situations, however we can control how we react to it. It no longer becomes a trigger for us. Now that’s freedom! Contact me to learn how you can obtain this type of peace within your situation.
Do you have someone to call when you are in time of despair, even if it’s something like getting a flat tire? What do you do? How did you react when you read the title of this post? Please share in the comments below.
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Ah Elda, what a tender subject. It’s my belief we all navigate through our lives differently, and the sooner we all realize there isn’t one-size-fits-all nor is there any situation we should hold as a comparison to what we have or don’t have, there is immense freedom to create exactly what we do want.
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Along with the immense freedom comes ‘power’ to create exactly what we do want. Your comment is a great reminder to the positive aspects to letting go of comparisons. Thank you Deborah!
What most people don’t realize is that we can ‘talk’ about it and logically realize that we don’t want to be like that and yet until we work through FREEING THE EMOTIONS that are involved with this, our body will still react in the same way.
As always, your comment touched my heart deeply.
I love your story about the trip alone – I’ve been toying with doing something totally adventurous by myself. What a luxury, and you are right – freedom is everything! To do what we want to do in the time we want to spend doing it.
Oooohhhh…..how exciting, Vickie! I highly recommend it. I have traveled solo many times and truly enjoy ‘being in the moment’ with whatever adventure (small or large) that I am on.
Please keep me posted. I would like to hear about your personal experience.
Elda, hugs to you. I never thought about this, but I realize I am hugely blessed to have people to text in that situation, and people who would really miss me. Ah, I’m really touched by this.
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Thank you for the comment and the hugs, Naomi!
Elda, you are in my loving thoughts every day, whether it is thinking about you doing something I know that you have planned and emailing you, or responding to your daily post on your business FB page, or seeing what you are doing on your personal page. Even with loving relationships, family members are not always in daily, or even weekly contact. I’m sure I am not the only one who would want to hear from you, knowing we mattered enough to you to be in your final thoughts, just as you would be in ours. I love you, dear friend, but also respect your freedom to choose, and to be adventurous on your own, just as I value my choices to do so. <3
I openly receive your DAILY loving thoughts and wishes for me, Joyce! You are a dear, dear friend whom I long to hug again in person one day. Maybe your country/area needs to be on the top of my travel ‘wish list’. Thank you for presenting this ‘aha’ moment for me. Much love to you.
Elda, your vulnerability and honesty truly touched my soul. Your sense of freedom within your choices is always inspiring to me and I value our friendship deeply. Thank you for yet another ‘aha’ insight that has expanded my own consciousness! Love you!
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Your comment helps me realize more and more how important it is for me to allow myself to be vulnerable, Mary.
In the past, I was such a super private person so this being open and vulnerable was such a great risk for me. When I hear that I have either inspired or touched someone’s soul, it’s such a great reminder for me to continue.
Much love to you dear friend!