“Life marches by… I suggest you get on with it!” said Katherine Hepburn’s character to her daughter played by Jane Fonda in the movie ‘On Golden Pond’. Get over it.
Have you ever had someone say something similar to you either at work or at home or maybe even a friend? Get over it.
Grown up
During this scene with Jane Fonda and Katherine Hepburn you see how Jane Fonda’s character is frustrated with how she seems to have it all together at her home in LA with her group of people, her career, she feels in charge.
And yet when she comes home to Golden Pond, she feels like that little girl suffering through those same issues she did as a child. At one point she says, “I don’t think I have grown up on Golden Pond.”
Does this sound familiar?
Especially around the holidays, it may seem like this is the time to be jolly and for some people it makes them feel like they are 12 years old or maybe even 5 again.
Let it Flow
In one of my previous blog posts, Let it Flow I shared how important it is for us to allow our feelings to come out. We don’t need to do this in front of others however, it is important to Let it Flow for our own well being…at least follow the 90 second practice. Find a private place and let it all out.
By not addressing what is bothering us, we will see a thread throughout our life of various times those same issues arise, only the other times it is with other people. If we look closely, we see that the underlying feeling is the same. Work through it. Avoid stuffing it down.
Life marches on…I suggest you get on with it! – Katherine Hepburn
The next time someone tells you to ‘Get over it’, think about best for you instead of what they think. Let out your frustrations, your sadness or your disappointment in a respectful and safe manner.
….at least for 90 seconds.
When was the last time you were told, ‘Get over it’ and how did you respond? Please share in the comments below.
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Hmm. I don’t know the last time I was told that, but I agree with you. It’s best to allow your emotions their own time to sift and settle. 🙂
Actually, that’s wonderful that you don’t remember the last time you were told to ‘get over it’! Thanks, Naomi.
I don’t respond well to those kind of comments, which is probably people tend to avoid muttering such advice to me ;-). Thanks for the good advice that’s particular timely in the midst of the holiday season, Elda.
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It’s good that people understand you. Thanks for the comment, Nanette.
I can’t remember the last time I heard those words either….and that is a very good thing. The holidays are a stressful time for most folks, one way or another, so good advice. I especially like “in a respectful and safe manner”, that to me is the key to being heard!
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You’re exactly right, Debbie. It reminds me of the saying, “you can catch more bees with honey than with vinegar. Thank you.
I like Naomi don’t remember the last time someone said to get over it to me. I agree with you Elda, we need to feel our feelings and then release those emotions that aren’t serving you to create the life you love, as soon as you’re able to. Tapping, is one very good way to release them more quickly than one normally will do. Thank you for all of your articles you share with us! I love them all!~
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Connie, Thank you for sharing how using the Emotional Freedom Techniques with ‘tapping’ helps us release these emotions more quickly.
I don’t remember when someone told me to get over it, but love our relavant this topic is . Love your perspective.
Thank you for your comment, Christina. It is very relevant now as people are traveling home to see family during the holidays.
I don’t recall the last time I was told to get over it in a familial setting, though I can relate to feeling like a child when back at home – even when we’re grown up. Perhaps we don’t grow up because we were given the scripts as children and still, for some reason, feel an obligation to fulfill them. Great advice, “The next time someone tells you to ‘Get over it’, think about best for you instead of what they think.” Thanks, Elda!!!
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Being told to ‘get it over it’ can happen in work settings or friendships also. Thanks for your comment, Michelle.
This is why I write. Anytime I’m upset I just write. I don’t think, I don’t edit, I just let it flow. Mean, cruelty, anger all released through writing. And then towards the end of the scripted rant I start to discover solutions and closure.
And then if I feel a confrontation may need to occur, I will edit down the original 5,000 words of venting to a couple of logical paragraphs combining a gentle balance of expressed emotions, causes and effects, as well as my presented solutions.
Letting it out is so very important for so many reasons beyond our mental health! What a great post!
Thank you for sharing how therapeutic it is for you to write. 5,000 words….that’s impressive!
Thank you for your comment.