If someone tells you you hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't. “If someone tells you you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.” Think about this quote for a moment from both perspectives. Have you ever had someone say to you, “Get over it. I didn’t mean anything by … [Read more...]
I Don’t Think We Have One
"I've been thinking about our relationship, I don't think we have one." This was a line from a new Netflix film called, 'Otherhood'. The person being spoken to disagreed until the point was made clear when they were unable to share 10 things they knew about this immediate family … [Read more...]
Is That Really Supporting You?
What happens when someone brings up the topic of family? Even in supposed ‘support group’ FaceBook pages designed for people who are estranged from family, when there is a conversation going on there can be a HUGE difference of opinion. Is That Really Supporting … [Read more...]
I Cannot Wait To NOT See You Again!
How many times after a family event have you said that to yourself? Did someone do something at this special family occasion that really got under your skin? In your eyes, did they spoil the whole thing for you? What if we were to really know them and what makes them tick? Might this make a … [Read more...]
4 Easy Steps To Break Free From Having Our Buttons Pushed
I can’t believe she did that again! Did you hear what he said? Why did they even come here? How many times have we thought something similar? Most people just go through each day trying our best to protect and defend ourselves, however what is really happening is that we are becoming more … [Read more...]
How does your life compare to the movies?
Ever notice that sometimes you can watch some action toward someone else that could be potentially offensive in a movie or a TV show and not feel anything negative about it but if it were to happen to YOU personally, it would throw you for a loop? Why is that? Here are some ideas to … [Read more...]
5 Essential Tips to Self-Compassion in Relationships
How can we exercise self-compassion when there is another person involved? Is it possible to demonstrate self-compassion in relationships? Or is it always about one person or the other? The relationship we cultivate with our own self, the self-talk, the actions we decide on that have consequences … [Read more...]
They just don’t care.
Remember trying to talk to that certain person in your life and all they did was shut down? The more you talked and tried to get a reaction out of them, the more you felt that “they just don’t care!” Maybe that person was YOU. Someone was trying to talk to you and you were not hearing it. What … [Read more...]
How is YOUR Method of Dealing with Conflict Working for You?
Isn’t it funny how if we were to examine it, that fights are all the same? Basically two people might be yelling, accusing, or running away. However they choose, they are doing whatever they do best other than tell the other person what they really feel. How about if we ‘talk’ instead of run … [Read more...]
Did You Have An Imperfect Year?
As you look back onto 2014, how do you look at it? What do you immediately see? Is it the failures, the times we may have misspoken, or the things we didn’t get to do, or the people we didn’t get to see that we wished for? Are we disappointed at our 'imperfect' year? Perfect is described in the … [Read more...]
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