I can’t believe she did that again! Did you hear what he said? Why did they even come here?
How many times have we thought something similar?
Most people just go through each day trying our best to protect and defend ourselves, however what is really happening is that we are becoming more closed off.
How do we break free?
Step 1 – Start watching life
Notice when we feel someone is trying to ‘push our buttons’ or get to us. The first step is becoming aware.
Step 2 – Feel the change in your energy
Once you notice the change in your energy flow, RELAX. Our body doesn’t know the difference between a real life threat that may be detrimental to our survival, or if it is an emotional threat.
There are many different tools out there to help us relax whether it is meditating, “tapping” (EFT), deep breath work, etc. Find a tool that resonates well with you.
Step 3 – Fall in love with the situation
Okay, maybe you can’t see yourself falling in love with the situation then try this: STOP judging it! Don’t fight it. Don’t try to change it.
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
― Bob Moawad
Step 4 – Let Go
When we put all of our focus on these thoughts and emotions, we give them more power and energy. What started out as just a thought can turn into the story of our lives.
Take a moment to decide that you don’t want to go that far. Be careful. Make the decision to release this energy instead of suppressing it.
No matter what happens in life, it is better to LET GO than to close our selves off.
Where in your life do you feel your buttons are being pushed? Are you willing to try these steps? Please share in the comment section below.
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These are great suggestions- one of my favorites has always been “let it go”. Whenever a situation becomes the best of me I take a deep breath and tell myself to let it go! I also share that with others when they are in the same situation. Thanks for the advise.
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Let it go seems to be the hardest one for most of us to implement. It’s so nice to hear that this is one of your favorites Sue! Thanks for the comment.
Yes, someone close to me in my life has been ‘pushing my buttons’ for years. Finally, I realized that person was making my life miserable. I had to distance myself for awhile, but finally we came back together. I simply learned to push out my positive energy toward that person….no matter what is being said…I stay focused on the positive. Most of the time, that person picks up on my positive energy and becomes much more agreeable to be with….
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I think it’s in our human nature to resist what we don’t like Debbie. I remind myself of the phrase, “What resists, persists.” It is so GREAT that you are now able to send out positive energy!
Great suggestions! I’ve been deleting people from my online profile who just get me wound up and upset. Still need to work on finding ways to deal with a few folks who I allow to get under my skin in my day to day living. I’ll give your suggestions a try! 😀
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I understand completely about wanting to delete people from our life for how they make us feel Deb. It’s important for us to set boundaries about what type of energy we want to be around. Then there are some cases where we aren’t necessarily able to delete someone from our existence (as easy as it is on social media), so these tips come in handy.
Let me know how it goes Deb. Thanks for the comment.
Great tips Elda. I think the moving out of judgment is hugely beneficial as is letting go. It’s really helpful for me to remember that we’re all sovereign beings, responsible for our choices, our actions, and what we choose to carry. I do my best to keep what I’m carrying joyful.
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I like the way you stated that Deborah, “We are all responsible for what we choose to carry.” I am going to remember that phrase. Thanks!
Those are easy steps but if it isn’t put into practice, it certainly won’t work. You know what a few months I had this friend who was really taken advantage of me and I just couldn’t stop myself from being used. Well, I guess everybody has their limits..my buttons were pushed…I had to stop being the doormat…I had to be honest and let her know this friendships wasn’t going anywhere and that we had to let go and move on with our lives. We did! I am happier and more at peace.
Got to share your post on my fb wall:) This could help so many. Thank you:)
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You’re right Hema. Reading it is one thing, putting these steps into practice is another. Thanks so much for sharing the post, I appreciate it so much!
It’s also helpful to know when you’re pushing other people’s buttons so you can avoid doing that whenever possible. A fair amount of pain in my life came because I inadvertently ticked people off, and they lashed out.
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Yes, awareness is key from both perspectives. Thanks for sharing Scott.
interesting and very timely. Letting go is a very valuable tool – I’ve learned in the past year that forgiving is also a powerful tool. If you continue to let people push your buttons, take advantage of you, make you mad, they are winning the battle and you are losing it!
What an important realization you found that we are actually the one’s losing if we allow others to push our buttons! Thanks so much for sharing Vickie.
I have a two year old so sometimes it feels as if my buttons are pushed daily! I once read that when you want to lose your cool it’s because your limbic system is reacting and it can help if you just release it in a different way instead of yelling. So now sometimes when I feel like I’m going to lose my cool and yell I make a big silly noise and that allows me to react calmly. It seemed absurd when I read it, but it really does help me to let it go.
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It is wonderful how a simple shift in our state of mind can affect us so quickly. I am so glad to hear that you found a quick solution for you. Thanks so much for sharing Melissa!
Great tips here! Letting go has been a big challenge for me in the past. I am getting better and that’s something I am proud of 🙂
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Letting go is usually the hardest one for each of us. Way to recognize that you are making progress. Excellent!! Thanks Michelle!
Honestly, I tend to struggle with your 2-4 suggestions (25% of the way there :-)). Some people seem to find it so easy to shut off, check out, or forget. I don’t, but am working on it.
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Awareness is key so you have that part Nanette. That’s something to acknowledge for yourself. Thanks for sharing.
A very insightful post. I love using EFT these days. I’m doing the daily tapping with the 7th Annual Tapping World Summit. Resistance to what I feel in my body is big one for me… yet I understand that it’s there to teach me something. Thank you for sharing this lovely blog post.
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I am SO HAPPY to hear you are following the 7th annual Tapping Summit Suzanne! Isn’t it fascinating to see what comes up for us when we tap on those hidden emotions? Especially when there is resistance. I find it very helpful to have someone guide me through the situation when it is something that my mind or my body says, “I don’t want to go there!”
Thanks so much for sharing your experience with this!
gosh… this is one thing that takes a long time to practice until it becomes second nature… but it’s so well worth it!! thank you for sharing =)
All good things are worth the effort! 🙂 Welcome Regina and thank you for your comment.
Elda, such great information for everyone to pay attention to. Yes, we are responsible for our own journey’s here on earth! Keep the wonderful information coming! Love and blessings to you!
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